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Summary of Transcript:
In this YouTube video, Benjamin Hardy, Ph.D., discusses his book “Personality is Not Permanent” with the host Tom. He became interested in this topic due to his background and experiences with change. Hardy defines personality as consistent attitudes and behaviors over time, which he believes is surface level. He argues that personality cannot be fixed or permanent and reveals that identity, which is how one sees oneself, is the driving force behind the personality. He believes that potential is not set and people can change, but constraints exist. He shares his story of growing up in a healthy environment but experiencing a rough divorce that led to his father’s drug addiction and a difficult living situation.
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Summary of Description:
On this episode of Impact Theory, Tom Bilyeu and Benjamin Hardy, Ph.D., discuss how to take control of your personality and reshape your identity to move forward. They cover topics such as why we get trapped in our personalities, how trauma shapes us, how pain tolerance is key to growth, and how to reframe your past and future. Benjamin emphasizes that nature is not permanent and discusses the importance of being cognitively flexible and committing to your goals. Through acceptance and commitment therapy, he explains how pressure creates traction to move forward.
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Reshaping Your Identity: How to Move Forward in Life
Are you feeling stuck in life? Do you feel like your personality or self-identity is holding you back? It’s time to take control of who you are and redefine your entire character to move forward to your desired future. On this episode of Impact Theory, Tom Bilyeu is joined by organizational psychologist and author Benjamin Hardy, Ph.D., to discuss how you can reshape your identity and personality to create your desired future.
The Conversation Needs to Shift to Personalities
Benjamin shares that the conversation needs to shift to the idea of personalities. Our personalities are not set in stone. We should focus on shaping and redefining our personality rather than feeling stuck with it.
Trapped in Identities
Many of us feel trapped in our identities like we don’t have control over who we are. Benjamin reveals why this happens and how trauma shapes us. He shares that trauma isn’t what happens to you but what you hold inside without an empathetic witness.
Your Personality is Always Changing
Your personality will change no matter what in life. Benjamin shares that our environment and experiences shape and mold us. This means that you have the power to reshape who you are and who you want to be.
Moving Beyond Trauma
Trauma can hold us back from moving forward in life. Benjamin discusses how we can move beyond our trauma and heal. He shares how he recovered from the trauma and mended his relationships.
Reframing Your Past and Future
Crafting a beautiful vision for your future is essential to moving forward. Your past never defines your future. Benjamin discusses why we must reframe both our past and future. He reveals that the present determines how we view our history, and we can reframe it.
Pain Tolerance is Key to Growth
Pain tolerance is key to growth. Benjamin reveals how pushing through pain and discomfort can help you grow and build resilience. He also discusses the power of being cognitively flexible, which allows us to adapt and thrive in any situation.
Redefining Commitment
Commitment is the jumping point from courage. Benjamin shares that the more committed we are to something, the more courageous we can be. This leads us to develop flexibility and competencies and try new things. It’s how confidence is built.
Pressure Creates Traction
Pressure can feel overwhelming but can also create traction to move forward. Benjamin shares how pressure can push us to act and progress toward our goals. Acceptance and commitment therapy can also help us accept and move through anxiety.
Connect with Benjamin
Connect with Benjamin and continue to learn how you can reshape your personality and identity to create the future you want. Visit his website, follow him on social media, and check out his new book, ‘Personality Isn’t Permanent.’
In conclusion, redefining your personality and reshaping your identity is never too late. You can move beyond trauma, reframe your past and future, and push through the pain to grow and thrive. Pressure can create traction; commitment is the jumping point from courage to confidence. Take action today to create the future you want for yourself.
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Source Description
Do you feel trapped by your personality or self-identity and struggle to move forward? It’s time for you to take control of who you are, redefine your real nature, and reshape your identity to move forward toward the future you want for yourself.
On this episode of Impact Theory, Tom Bilyeu is joined by organizational psychologist and author Benjamin Hardy, Ph.D., to discuss such matters and more as they explore why your personality and self-identity are ever-changing things you can control to reshape and reform. They discuss why most of us are trapped in our personalities, how your personality is always changing, how trauma shapes us, how to move forward in life, why your past never defines your future, the power of reframing your past and future, why pain tolerance is key to growth, how to become cognitively flexible, and how pressure creates traction to move forward in life.
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SHOW NOTES:
Personality | Benjamin shares why the conversation needs to shift to personalities. [0:12]
Trapped | Benjamin reveals why we get trapped in the identities we’ve created. [1:30]
Change | Benjamin tells you why your character will change no matter what. [3:33]
Trauma | Benjamin discusses how we hold onto and interact with our trauma. [8:09]
Healing | Benjamin discusses how he healed from trauma and mended his relationships. [11:23]
Moving Forward | Benjamin reveals how we can move beyond our trauma. [13:22]
Giving Up | Benjamin discusses why you shouldn’t give up on your idea of your future. [17:03]
Your Past | Benjamin discusses why your past never defines your future. [17:55]
Reframe | Benjamin reveals why you must reframe your past and future. [22:26]
Future | Benjamin discusses how to craft a beautiful vision for your future. [25:28]
Next Steps | Benjamin discusses the power of journaling and thinking ahead. [29:07]
Self-Expansion | Benjamin discusses how our environment influences our visions. [30:49]
Pushing Through | Benjamin reveals why pain tolerance is key to growth. [34:51]
Flexibility | Benjamin discusses the power of being cognitively flexible. [38:51]
Commitment | Benjamin shares how you should redefine commitment. [39:45]
Pressure | Benjamin shares how pressure creates traction to move forward in life. [41:26]
Acceptance | Benjamin discusses acceptance and commitment therapy. [44:50]
Connect | Benjamin shares how you can connect and continue to follow him. [45:50]
QUOTES:
“Trauma isn’t what happens to you; it’s what you hold inside without an empathetic witness.” [8:47]
“Many people think that the past is causing the present, but the reality from a memory perspective is that the present is causing the meaning of the past. Wherever you’re at in the present, that’s what’s determining how you view your past.” [20:03]
“I think commitment is kind of the jumping point from courage. You know, however, committed you are to something, that’s how courageous you can be, and however courageous you can be, that’s what ultimately leads you to develop flexibility, developing competencies, try things you’ve never done, and that’s how confidence is built.” [41:07]
FOLLOW BENJAMIN:
Website: benjaminhardy.com
Twitter: twitter.com/benjaminphardy
Facebook: facebook.com/benjamin.hardy.18
Instagram: instagram.com/benjamin_hardy_phd
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