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This episode discusses the importance of setting boundaries in relationships, both physical and metaphysical. It can be scary to establish boundaries with loved ones, but it grants permission to say “no” and prioritize self-care. When starting to set boundaries, it is important to ask oneself “why” and determine what is needed from the relationship. Specific boundaries can then be established, such as only answering phone calls from a friend when there is spare time and the desire to catch up, instead of constantly being available to vent.
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Why setting boundaries in relationships is crucial
Establishing boundaries within relationships can help to sustain healthy dynamics with loved ones. These boundaries can be vital for taking care of yourself and your needs, while also making sure that your relationships are nourishing and positive. However, it can be daunting to set boundaries if you’ve never done it before. Here’s how to get started:
Understanding the issue
Determining where to draw the line when it comes to our relationships can be challenging. It may seem unfair to set boundaries when we have been accommodating our loved ones for so long. But not setting boundaries can lead to feelings of resentment, anger, and burnout in the long run.
Most of us are familiar with physical boundaries like lines, walls, and fences. It’s understandable that we might not realize the importance of setting emotional and mental boundaries in our relationships. In our ever-connected world, it’s crucial to set these kinds of boundaries with family, friends, and partners.
Going deeper
Giving our loved ones permission to say “no” is essential. People are often afraid to set boundaries because they believe that their friends, parents, or partners will either leave or love them less. However, people must be respected, loved, and valued for who they are, rather than for what they can do.
Nurturing a codependent relationship with anyone can be damaging. It’s not a healthy way to enjoy the beauty of the relationships in our lives because it takes away from our individuality. Furthermore, learning how to say “no” is a skill that is invaluable when it comes to establishing healthy boundaries.
Taking action
Start by figuring out why it’s essential to set boundaries with your loved ones. Identify the relationships that need boundaries, and start with one. Try to understand what it is you want from this person – what they bring to your life and how they do it. Think about what specific boundaries would work best for you and your loved ones.
For instance, if your friend is notorious for phoning every evening to vent, set a boundary that limits your time on the phone to a specific duration. If someone is toxic to the point of causing discomfort or damage to your mental health, determine the boundaries that would make sense for you. Always strive to maintain respect and love for yourself and others.
Conclusion
Establishing boundaries is crucial when it comes to healthy relationships. They can help us to feel more in control of our lives while ensuring that our loved ones appreciate and value us for who we are. When setting boundaries, it’s essential to identify why it’s necessary to set them, think about what we want from our relationships, and determine specific boundaries that work for us. Once we’ve set those boundaries, communicate with our loved ones respectfully, honestly, and directly.
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